Here Be Marriage |
A place to think about marriage. The personal essays here relate to the specific experience of the author, and are not meant to suggest, in any way, that there is a "right" or "wrong" way to get married, or that you even should get married. They are merely approaching marriage from the perspective of if you're going to do it, what questions need to be asked and answered? Why "Here Be Marriage?" It's a riff on the old "Here Be Dragons" map tag, and, in a way, marriage is the same sort of mythical thing. |
Thoughtful piece by Shane Dingman at The Globe and Mail.
This is bad news for new dads like me who are aware they are not perfect. I am going to fail at something when it comes to raising my son. That’s an uncomfortable truth, but it would be sheer hubris to imagine it won’t ever happen. It could be something big – maybe a failure to properly impart a survival skill he might need – or something as small as a look of disappointment when I don’t know how to help him with a problem. That would be devastating to me, and perhaps plant the seed that maybe dad isn’t a superhero.
His statements are about fatherhood but I think they apply to marriage as well. Knowing you’ll fail, and possibly quite often, is a good thing to share with your partner.
